Archive - March, 2010

Looking for a Youth Ministry Job? Let me help. (I’m not a coach or a consultant)

Ok this is not an advertisement for a coaching service.  I don't have one, I'm not interested in starting one and I'm too busy to really care about one.  I'm also not a recruiter. I don't get paid by some Christian Job board to help anyone fill positions. 

Here's what I am.  I'm perceptive, savvy, a great negotiator and I've been around the block a few times.  I can read between the lines of job descriptions, tell you what I think they are really saying and help you wade through what it means to look for, find, get offered and negotiate a salary package for a new job. 

Why does it sound like I'm angry right now?  It's because I am.  I just finished reading a job description for a youth ministry job that really frustrated me.  It contained almost everything that angers me about the institutional church.  Lot's of control language about who holds power in the youth department and it included the caveat that your job would be renewable every year based on performance.  I know that last sentence sounds weird because yes all jobs should be based on how you do but I generally think that isn't something you put in the job description if you really want someone to move to a community  knowing their job is a one year contract and maybe just maybe they'll get a second year based on some arbitrary review of performance.

Probably the most outrageous part of the whole description was this sentence:

e) Cordially acknowledge and accept staff supervision from the Senior Pastor.

Apparently the person who was there before wasn't "cordial"  and that's why they inserted this clause. 

Ok enough of a rant. I care about youth ministry a ton and I also care about the people who are doing it.  If you are a paid youth worker and feeling stuck in a job or starting to look for a job let's talk.  You don't have to pay me. I just want to help.  Too many youth workers get stuck in bad jobs and get beat up by the church and bail out after only a few years feeling totally burned.

Don't go to a dying or dead church.  Guess what will happen?  You will die. 

Rant Over.

Hospital follow up. Today was good.

Ok my last post I talked about a difficult day on Friday and how it was tough for me to engage.  I put some of my plan into practice today and it was great. 

I entered the Burn unit and started at one room and just worked my way down the floor talking and praying with all the patients.  This is a particularly difficult floor as you can imagine.  There was one room that I almost passed by because the door was closed but I knocked and went in anyways.  I met a man who had only been there since Friday but was burned pretty badly.  As we talked he wept and I cried too.  His life has changed so much in just the blink of an eye the camp stove he was using to cook dinner exploded and he caught fire.  He was wrestling with what his life would look like when he left the hospital and why this happened to him.  I'm glad God had me at that place at that time. 

Thinking Theologically in that place is tough but it's also an important thing to do.  Wrestling with purpose and with God's plan in the midst of that experience is so tough.

I'm pretty excited to go back tomorrow and connect with many of the same patients again.  Today I was reminded that God is using me in spite of me. 

Hospital Chaplaincy difficulties today.

Today was a tough day at the hospital.  I found it very hard to engage and to make the first steps to getting to be with people.  Fridays are generally tough days as I don't have a specific bunch of things to do.   I'm pretty good on days when I'm holding a trauma pager or even the house pager because then I get "called" to come and do something. 

But Fridays I'm generally on my own and what I'm supposed to do is just go up to my floor and knock on doors.  As an introvert that's just about the most difficult thing for me to do in my life. 

I'm working on strategy to make sure this doesn't happen again next Friday.  Here's a few things I'm going to try. If anyone has any other advice I'd love to hear it.  If any of you have done a chaplaincy I could use some encouragement too. 

1. Be prepared by praying and mentally engaging before going to the hospital.  

2. When arriving at the hospital after I print out my floor sheets head straight up and knock on the first door on my list.  This will force me to get involved right away without going and talking to Doctors or nurses first.

3. Pick one wing of my floor and just work my way down knocking on doors and talking to every patient.  If I don't give myself any options I'll probably be better off. 

4. Give myself some grace to take breaks throughout the shift and re energize. 

Two options to get to my old house

I know not everyone grew up like me but here's the only ways to get to where I grew up on Whidbey Island.


Two options to get to my old house

Two options to get to my old house

Enter into the Starchamber

I think that everyone needs a Star chamber. I spent three hours last night in the one that Len Sweet calls his study. It is a beautiful place.  Small, filled with books, chairs, cigar smoke and stories.  It's a place where ideas are discussed and sometimes destroyed.  The right people were there last night and the opportunity for learning was huge.   I'm not ready to talk about all that we discussed but I will say that the pedagogy of learning that Len promotes is something that needs to be spread to more people.

I need a place in Dallas where ideas about theology, the church and leadership can be dissected, ruminated on and accepted or destroyed. 

I'll also say that the cadre of learning last night was huge.  Thank you George Fox Seminary for bringing together such an amazing group.  It was rich because of your commitment.

Anyone near Dallas want to talk about this kind of stuff let me know. 

Book Review: Enter the Story

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Every month or so Zondervan sends me a few books to read that have just been published about Youth Ministry.  This week I got a copy of Enter the Story by Michael Novelli and I made a  mistake of opening it before putting it on the pile of books to read later. 

I met Michael at one of the National Youth Workers Convention this fall and although we didn’t spend a significant amount of time together I was struck by his warm introduction and what I instantly recognized as a depth of character.  What I mean by that is that I saw someone who generally looked and acted like he was willing to engage with someone he just met and didn’t know with no side agenda or plan.  He also struck me as someone who lives what he writes about.  That's a huge deal for me as it validates what he writes.

Later at that conference I was speaking with another friend who told me more about Michael and what he was doing with the Merge event and the Echo The Story website.   He mentioned to me that a book was coming out at some point and that it might really help re frame a way of doing youth ministry education that would be  helpful.

So I opened the book.   What I was immediately struck by was that this didn’t seem to be a typical Youth Ministry resource book of lessons.  He takes a significant amount of time (4 chapters) to frame the purpose and the learning experiences that he presents through the stories.  My favorite part of the introduction is a short paragraph that describes how one of his students connected with the “Story Experiment” teaching style. 

“The more we dove into the Story, the deeper their insights and questions became.  One of my teens described it this way: “For the first time I felt like I could relate to the characters in the story…I saw them as real, plausible, and many-sided.  They became real people doing real things…It challenged me to listen to God and obey his calling….to live in God’s will fully.  I need to surrender everything to God.”

I think what I liked the most about the Seven Stories he brings to life through the lessons in the book is that they are focused upon creating framework for the students that allows them to reinterpret all of the other Biblical stories they know through it’s lens. 

Maybe a better way to explain that is to say that I live in the Bible Belt of Texas where the Biblical stories and worldview is hammered into students from a very early age.  But, while many students have “knowledge” of scripture and Biblical stories they haven’t all necessarily entered “into” the story.  The resources in this book provide an opportunity for students to do that in a pretty great way.

Full disclosure.  I received a free copy of this book but have not received anything else to write this review.  I haven’t used any of the lessons yet but I am planning on using them in the near future.   Michael has another book out that I haven't read too but it seems to explain the Story concept even more. 

Heading to Orcas

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Once a year I head to a place that I think is pretty magical.  It's so magical that some really great people whom I like spend a lot of time there writing books.  Don Miller, Anne Jackson and Len Sweet (who also calls it his home).  I have the opportunity each year to head up there because of my connection with George Fox Seminary and the Doctorate of Ministry that I did there a few years back.  The seminary is incredible at being forward thinking and they realized last year that pulling back together some of the graduating students is a good thing and would pay off in great ways.  So,  a great cadre of thinkers was put together for a few days to do just that, think. And they invited me.  :)

One of my best friends Jeff and I have made this our yearly pilgrimage and both of us are committed to doing this as long as they are planning on having us.  Jeff is on the pastoral team of this really cool church in Laguna Beach, California.  He and I have been friends almost 20 years and he's one of the greatest thinkers I know. 

I haven't written books like many of my friends who have spent time here but I will say that every time I go to Orcas I feel smarter, deeper and wiser.  It may just be that it's because of the people I spend time with or it may be that this is a sacred space where there is a connection with God and ourselves that is just different and deep.  These times with Len and the rest of the cohort are incredibly valuable to me and life giving as well.  It's almost as if I feel I can just sit and absorb so much and it makes me a better writer, pastor and person.

I should also say that I grew up in Washington and called Whidbey Island my home for my whole growing up years.  It's just south of the San Juan Islands and is a pretty cool place to be from in my mind. 

What is there besides a cruise?

I'm almost scared to talk about anything else on my blog this week besides my dream of hanging out with youth workers on a cruise in October.  My plan has nothing to do with Youth Specialties and the domains I've bought have been laughed at by them.  They all wish they could go but can't go on vacations during conference season.  Danielle and I are in though and are already lining up babysitters.  It's a long ways away though and I've got to make it through the spring and summer before I can plan any of that.

So I'll just say keep following me and peace. Let's cruise.

National Youth Workers Convention and a Cruise?

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I've got a plan.  I'm speaking at the National Youth Workers Convention in San Diego Sept 30-Oct 4.  It's  a great Youth Ministry training event  put on by Youth Specialties.    But,  I usually go home pretty tired after the trip.  I don't sleep enough because I'm running around trying to get to interact with as many people as possible for 4 days. I also never have time to process the things I've learned as I usually head home and have youth group or meetings right afterward.

So this year I have a new plan.  I'm putting together a group of people to follow up the convention with a 4 night cruise to Catalina and Ensenada.  My goal is to provide a place for couples or single folks to just have a few days to relax after the convention before they go back to their churches.  What it would look like is you would basically take one week off of work but have two very distinctly different experiences. 

I've been dreaming of doing something like this for years but I thought it was probably too expensive.  But I just checked rates and that cruise right now is only about $230 per person. 

I've been involved in Youth Ministry for a while and I've got a bunch of friends who have too.  Imagine what it would be like if we all had 4 days of ongoing interactions to dream and scheme about our ministries and the future. 

Here's the link.  Think about joining Danielle and I and some great friends.

Meeting Michelle: A Mothers story in Haiti

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